Phoebe Bridger and Paul Mescal’s Relationship Timeline

Phoebe Bridgers and Paul Mescal have a truly modern love story.

The “Kyoto” singer and the Irish actor’s romance was first sparked by a series of flirty Twitter exchanges in May 2020. After watching Mescal star in the romantic drama series Normal peopleBridgers shared his thoughts on Twitter, writing: “Done Normal people and now I’m sad and horny oh wait.” The following day, Mescal responded, saying, “I’m officially dead,” to which the singer replied, “No, you’re not going to die. [sic] so clever aha.”

The duo continued to interact on social media until they made their red carpet debut in November 2021. While the couple has made some notable public appearances, they mostly prefer to keep their relationship private. Mescal apparently talked about Bridgers in a 2020 interview with GQ and while he didn’t specifically name her, he said his girlfriend was “a lifesaver” during the COVID-19 lockdown.

“Having someone to lean on through such a crazy, crazy time has been invaluable,” Mescal said. “Really, I don’t know where I’d be without her.”

Keep reading for a complete timeline of Phoebe Bridger and Paul Mescal’s relationship.

May 12, 2020: Phoebe Bridgers and Paul Mescal interact on Twitter

On May 11, 2020, Bridgers shared his thoughts on Normal peoplethe twisted Hulu series based on the Sally Rooney novel of the same name, on Twitter. “Done Normal people and now i’m sad and horny oh wait,” she wrote. Mescal, who co-starred as Connell, replied to her the following day saying “I’m officially dead,” to which Bridgers replied, “no don’t die your [sic] so clever aha.”

May 23, 2020: Phoebe Bridgers and Paul Mescal interview each other on Instagram Live

Bridgers and Mescal, who both appeared on separate covers of the Summer 2020 issue of Wonderland Magazine, hosted an Instagram Live together on the publication’s page. Their chemistry was undeniable as they chatted about the singer’s upcoming album, Punishesand Mescal’s role in Normal people.

In a particularly flirtatious moment, Mescal said, “I think it’s well documented that I love your music.” Bridgers replied, “Well, it makes me blush.”

June 12, 2020: Phoebe Bridgers talks about Paul Mescal in an interview

In an interview with NMEBridgers said she was beginning to see Normal people and referred to Mescal as the “sweet boy”. She also mentioned that he had followed her on Instagram and said: “I had a little heart flutter when I saw that.”

The outlet reported that Bridgers sent Mescal her album Punishes in preparation for their Instagram Live interview for Wonderland.

July 23, 2020: Phoebe Bridgers reportedly visits Paul Mescal in Ireland

While they have yet to confirm a romantic relationship, Bridgers and Mescal were reportedly spotted together in Ireland, where Mescal is from. No photos were released, but Lemon Leaf Café in Kinsale, Ireland shared via Twitter that the pair had apparently dined at their establishment earlier in the day.

“Fan-Tas-Tic day thanks to @mescal_Paul and @phoebe_bridgers for calling our cafe this morning for breakfast,” the tweet read. “Such amazingly talented young people.”

November 28, 2020: Paul Mescal mentions his relationship in an interview

Although he did not explicitly name Bridgers, Mescal did talk about his girlfriend during an interview with GQ. The actor said he wanted to keep her identity private, but called her “a lifesaver” throughout the quarantine period of the COVID-19 pandemic.

“Having someone to lean on through such a crazy, crazy time has been invaluable,” Mescal said. “Really, I don’t know where I’d be without her.”

December 8, 2020: Paul Mescal stars in Phoebe Bridgers’ music video for “Savior Complex”

In a collaboration that sent fans into a frenzy, Mescal starred in the music video for Bridgers’ song “Savior Complex,” which was directed by Flea bag creator and star Phoebe Waller-Bridge. The video was filmed in black and white, and although it only features a brief interaction between Bridgers and Mescal, it was enough to fuel even more fan speculation that the pair were dating.

November 6, 2021: Phoebe Bridgers and Paul Mescal make their red carpet debut

Apparently confirming the couple’s romance, Bridgers and Mescal walked the red carpet together at the 2021 LACMA Art + Film Gala in Los Angeles. The couple were dressed to the nines, with Bridgers in a cream lace blouse and red tartan skirt and Mescal in a black tuxedo.

They posed for pictures with Mescal’s arm around Bridgers’ waist, and at one point Bridgers rested his head on Mescal’s shoulder as they smiled for the cameras.

That same night, Bridgers posted a caption tweet poke fun at Mescal for a misnomer during the event’s dinner. “Paul thinks a thousand islands is called a hundred year sauce,” she wrote.

December 10, 2021: Phoebe Bridgers and Paul Mescal make their relationship Instagram official

After lots of back and forth on social media, Bridgers and Mescal finally confirmed their relationship on Instagram. The singer shared a cute selfie of the pair that showed Bridgers smiling for the camera while Mescal leaned into the side of her face. She didn’t include a caption, but regardless, the photo itself was a clear statement of their romance.

February 14, 2022: Phoebe Bridgers shares a photo of herself and Paul Mescal on Valentine’s Day

The pair gave fans another glimpse into their romance when Bridgers shared a black and white photo showing the pair sprawled out on a bed with their arm over Mescal. Although the caption made no reference to the holiday (it simply credited the photographer), the photo was posted on Valentine’s Day.

May 2, 2022: Phoebe Bridgers and Paul Mescal perform together at the Met Gala

Bridgers and Mescal made their second red carpet appearance together at the 2022 Met Gala in New York City. While Bridgers technically attended Jonathan Simkhai, the designer of her sparkly dress, the pair posed for photos together as well as with Mescal’s Normal people costar, Daisy Edgar-Jones.

June 1, 2022: Paul Mescal makes a cameo in Phoebe Bridgers’ “Sidelines” music video

Mescal appeared in another of her boyfriend’s music videos in June 2022. The video was for Bridgers’ song “Sidelines”, which was created for the Hulu series Conversations with friends — another Sally Rooney adaptation!

It consisted of behind-the-scenes footage, with Mescal making a brief cameo towards the end. The pair were seen backstage with a group of people at one of Bridgers’ concerts, laughing.

Bridgers posted the video on Instagram and shared that her brother had made it.

June 24, 2022: Phoebe Bridgers says “Sidelines” is about Paul Mescal

In an interview with The GuardianBridgers discussed her love song “Sidelines,” which she co-wrote with her drummer Marshall Vore, revealing that it’s partly about Mescal.

However, she noted that it was not the easiest song to write, as it is far from her usual melancholic, emotional music.

“Writing about my relationship with only good s— because that’s all I feel is hard,” she said, adding of the happiness she feels with Mescal, “but it makes it easy when you’re clean actually they have feelings.”

July 28, 2022: Phoebe Bridgers sings on stage with Paul Mescal’s little sister

During the third night of her sold-out run at London’s O2 Academy Brixton, Bridgers pulled Mescal’s younger sister, up-and-coming indie singer Nell Mescal, on stage to perform her song “Georgia” with her.

The young artist later told NME of her relationship with her brother’s girlfriend, “It’s just nice to have someone that you respect so much, be so kind to you, and just have them in your day-to-day life.”

September 1, 2022: Paul Mescal supports Phoebe Bridgers’ new project

Bridgers’ upcoming project, a collaboration with The 1975, was well underway in September 2022, when the pop rock band and the “Motion Sickness” singer filmed a music video together in London.

Mescal was on hand to support his girlfriend and take some impressive behind-the-scenes photos of the musicians. Bridgers shared the photos on Instagram, simply captioning the post: “Paul took these.”

Bridgers will sing on four tracks of the band’s fifth studio album, frontman Matt Healy told Music Week.